Things you should give up to be Happy

We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:

 “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”  ~Wayne Dyer

What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” ~Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” ~Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” ~Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” ~Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.

 “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” ~Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” ~Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

This is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.

Social Sites These Days

I have more than six hundred friends, yet I am lonely. 

I speak to all of them everyday, yet none of them really know me. 

The problem I have sits in the spaces between looking into their eyes 

or at a name on a screen. I took a step back and opened my eyes, 

I looked around to realize the media we call social is anything but. 

When we open our computers, and it's our doors we shut. 

All this technology we have it's just an illusion. 

Community companionship a sense of inclusion yet, 

when you step away from this device of delusion, you awaken to see a world of confusion. 

A world where we're slaves to the technology we mastered,

where information gets sold by some rich greedy bastard. 

A world of self interest, self image, self promotion. 

Where we all share our best bits, but, leave out the emotion. 

Were at 'almost happy' with an experience we share, 

but is it the same if no one is there? 

Be there for your friends and they'll be there too, 

but no one will be if a group message will do. 

We edit and exaggerate, crave adulation. 

We pretend not to notice the social isolation. 

We put our words into order and turn our lives a-glistening. 

We don't even know if anyone is listening! 

Being alone isn't a problem let me just emphasize; 

if you read a book, paint a picture, or do some exercise. 

You're being productive and present not reserved and recluse. 

You're being awake and attentive and putting your time to good use. 

So when you're in public, and you start to feel alone. 

Put your hands behind your head, step away from the phone! 

You don't need to stare at the menu, or a your contact list. 

Just talk to one another, learn to coexist. 

I can't stand to hear the silence of a busy commuter train 

when no one want's to talk for the fear of looking insane. 

We're becoming unsocial, it no longer satisfies...

to engage with one another, and look into someone's eyes.

We're surrounded by children, who since they were born, 

have watched us living like robots, who now think it's the norm. 

It's not very likely you'll make worlds greatest dad, 

if you can't entertain a child without using an iPad. 

When I was a child, i'd never be home. 

Be out with my friends on our bikes we'd roam. 

I'd wear holes on my trainers, and graze up my knees. 

We'd build our own clubhouse, high up in the trees. 

Now the parks so quiet, it gives me a chill. 

See no children outside and the swings hanging still. 

Theres no skipping, no hopscotch, no church and no steeple. 

We're a generation of idiots, smart phones and dumb people. 

So look up from your phone, shut down display. 

Take in your surroundings, make the most of today.

Just one real connection is all it can take, 

to show you the difference that being there can make. 

Be there in the moment, when she gives you the look, 

that you remember forever as 'when love overtook‘. 

The time she first held your hand, or first kissed your lips, 

the time you first disagreed and you still love her to bits. 

The time you don't have to tell hundreds of what you've just done. 

Because you want to share this moment with just this one. 

The time you sell you sell your computer, so you can buy a ring, 

for the girl of your dreams, who is now the real thing. 

The time you want to start a family, and the moment when, 

you first hold your little girl, and get to love again. 

The time she keeps you up at night, and all you want is rest. 

And the time you wipe away the tears as your baby flees the nest. 

The time your baby girl returns, with a boy for you to hold, 

and the time he calls you granddad and makes you feel real old. 

The time you've taken all you've made, just by giving life attention. 

And how you're glad you didn't waste it, by looking down at some invention. 

The time you hold your wife's hand, sit down beside her bed, 

you tell her that you love her and lay a kiss upon her head. 

She then whispers to you quietly as her heart gives a final beat, 

that she's lucky she got stopped by that lost boy in the street. 

But none of these times ever happened, you never had any of this. 

When you're too busy looking down, you don't see the chances you miss. 

So look up from your phone, shut down those displays, 

we have a final act existence a set number of days. 

Don't waste your life getting caught in the net, 

because when the end comes there's nothing worse than regret. 

I'm guilty too of being part of this machine, 

this digital world, we are hear but not seen. 

Where we type as we talk, and we read as we chat. 

Where we spend hours together without making eye-contact. 

So don't give into a life where you follow the hype. 

GIve people your love, don't give them your 'like‘. 

Disconnect from the need to be heard and defined, 

go out into the world leave instructions behind. 

Look up from your phone. Shut down that display. 

Stop reading this poem. Live life the real way.

Lebensvorstellung : Perception of Life

eines Tages, Baby,

Da werden wir alt sein,
Ohh, Baby werden wir alt sein,
Und an all die Geschichten denken, die wir hätten erzählen können.
Ich
Ich bin der Meister der Streiche, wenn es um Selbstbetrug geht,
bin ein Kleinkind vom Feinsten, wenn ich vor Aufgaben steh'.
Bin ein entschleunigtes Teilchen,
kann auf Kleinstem was reissen, lass' mich begeistern für Leichtsinn, wenn ein andrer ihn lebt.

Und ich denke zu viel nach.
Ich warte zu viel ab.
Ich nehme mir zu viel vor und ich mach' davon zu wenig,
Ich halt' mich zu oft zurück,
ich zweifel' alles an, ich wäre gerne klug — allein das ist ziemlich dämlich.
Ich würd' gern so vieles sagen,
aber bleibe meistens still, weil wenn ich das alles sagen würde wär das viel zu viel,
Ich würd' gern so vieles tun, meine Liste is so lang, aber ich werd' eh nie alles schaffen,
also fang' ich gar nicht an.

Stattdessen häng' ich planlos vorm Smartphone,
wart' bloß auf den nächsten Freitag
Gemach! das mach' ich später — die Baseline meines Alltags.
Ich bin so furchtbar faul wie ein Kieselstein am Meeresgrund,
ich bin so furchtbar faul und mein Patronus ist ein Schweinehund.
Und mein Leben ist ein Wartezimmer — niemand ruft mich auf.
Mein Dopamin das spar' ich immer, falls ich es mal brauche
und eines Tages, Baby,
da werde ich alt sein,
Ohh, Baby werde ich alt sein
und an all die Geschichten denken, die ich hätte erzählen können.

Und du?
Du murmelst jedes Jahr neu an Silvester die wieder gleichen Vorsätze treu in dein Sektglas
und ende Dezember stellst du fest, dass du recht hast wenn du sagst, dass du sie dieses Jahr schon wieder vercheckt hast.
Dabei sollte für dich 2013 das erste Jahr vom Rest deines Lebens werden,
du wolltest abnehmen,
früher aufstehen,
öfter rausgehen, mal deine Träume angehen,
mal die Tagesschau sehn, für mehr Smalltalk, Allgemeinwissen, aber,
so wie jedes Jahr, obwohl du nicht damit gerechnet hast, kam dir mal wieder dieser Alltag dazwischen.

Unser Leben, ist ein Wartezimmer, niemand ruft uns auf,
unser Dopamin das spar'n wir immer falls wir’s nochmal brauchen,
und wir sind jung und haben viel Zeit,
warum soll'n wir was riskier'n?
Wir woll'n doch keine Fehler machen, woll'n doch nichts verlieren
und es bleibt so viel zu tun.
Unsere Listen bleiben lang,
und so geht Tag für Tag ganz still ins unbekannte Land.

Und eines Tages, Baby,
da werden wir alt sein,
Ohh, Baby werden wir alt sein,
Und an all die Geschichten denken, die wir hätten erzählen können.
Und die Geschichten, die wir dann statt dessen erzählen, werden traurige Konjunktive sein wie:
Einmal bin ich fast einen Marathon gelaufen
und hätte fast die Buddenbrooks gelesen,
und einmal wär' ich fast bis die Wolken wieder Lila war'n noch wach geblieben,
und fast, fast hätten wir uns mal demaskiert und hätten gesehen, wir sind die gleichen, und dann hätten wir uns fast gesagt, wie viel wir uns bedeuten
– Werden wir sagen

Und das wir bloß faul und feige waren, werden wir verschweigen
und uns heimlich wünschen noch ein bisschen hier zu bleiben,
wenn wir dann alt sind und unsere tage knapp — und das wird sowieso passieren — dann erst werden wir kapieren,
wir hatten nie was zu verlieren,
denn das Leben, das wir führen wollen, das könn' wir selber wählen, also
lass uns doch Geschichten schreiben, die wir später gern erzählen,
lass uns nachts lange wachbleiben, aufs höchste Hausdach der Stadt steigen, lachend und vom Takt frei die allertollsten Lieder singen.
Lass uns Feste wie Konfetti schmeißen, sehn wie sie zu Boden reisen und die gefall'nen Feste feiern, bis die Wolken wieder lila sind.
Und lass mal an uns selber glauben,
ist mir egal ob das verrückt ist, und wer genau kuckt sieht, dass Mut auch bloß ein Anagramm von Glück ist.
Und wer immer wir auch waren,
lass mal werden wer wir sein wolln.
Wir haben schon viel zu lang' gewartet, lass mal Dopamin vergolden.
Der Sinn des Lebens ist leben. — Das hat schon Casper gesagt.
Let’s make the most of the Night — Das hat echo Ke$ha gesagt.
Lass uns möglichst viele Fehler machen
und möglichst viel aus ihnen lernen,
lass uns jetzt schon Gutes säen, damit wir später Gutes ernten.
Lass uns alles tun weil wir können und nicht müssen,
Weil jetzt sind wir jung und lebendig und das soll ruhig jeder wissen
und
unsre Zeit die geht vorbei.
Das wird sowieso passieren,
und bis dahin sind wir frei,
und es gibt nichts zu verlieren.
Lass uns uns mal demaskieren und dann seh'n wir sind die Gleichen, und dann könn' wir uns ruhig sagen, dass wir uns viel bedeuten,
denn das Leben, was wir führen wollen, das können wir selber wählen.

Also: Los!
Schreiben wir Geschichten, die wir später gern erzählen!
Und eines Tages, Baby,
da werden wir alt sein,
Ohh, Baby werden wir alt sein,
Und an all die Geschichten denken, die für immer unsre sind.

Quelle : German Slam-Poetry

Don't Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit!

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure has turned about,
When they might have won had they stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow!
Often the goal is nearer than It seems to a faint and faltering one,
Often the struggler has given up
When they might have captured the victor's cup.
And they learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close they were to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint to the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the task when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem the worst, that you must not quit!

मरिसकेका सपनाहरु

मन भित्र मरिसकेका सपनाहरु
आज फेरी खोलेर हेरे
अस्ताइसकेकी घाम उनी फेरी उदाउछिनकी भनी
आज फेरी बोलेर हेरे।।

बुझाउन खोज्छु, मन बुझ्दैन किन?
भन्छु, भैंसी हरु अघाउदैनन कहिल्यै
तर, सम्झना बनेपछी मातहरु
ज्ञानीग्न्द्रिय हरु छैनन खुशी सधैं
के बिर्सन्थे र सँगै बिताएका रातहरु।।

थाहा छ, सपनाहरु यि हुँदै हैनन,
जहाँ मात्र छन झुटा साथहरु
नभए सत्य, किन आउथ्योर सम्झनाहरु?
जहाँ मनको गाठो खोल्ने छन तिनै सुनौला रातहरु।।

त्यही मन, सुरुमा भन्थ्यो
यस्तो साथ पाइदैन
त्यही मन बिचमा बिच्कियो
भन्यो, यस्तो साथ चहिदैन
अब फेरी यही मन भनिरहेछ
झुटा कसमहरु कथमकदाचित फेरी फेरी खाईदैन।।
मन एउटै हो मात्र उमेर बदलियो
मनलाई त बुझाउदै छु म,
तर ज्ञानीन्द्रियहरु मातिएका छन
यि झुटै भए पनि साथ चाहिएको छ
आखिर रमाईलैको लागि यो नाटकहरु भए
ठिकै छ यस्ता नौटन्कीहरु बजारभरी पाइेएकै छ।।

यसै भनी सारा सपनाहरु एक्-एक गरी फाल्दै छु म
फाटेको मन फाटोस, फाट्नु जती फाटिसक्यो,
यही पैसामा बिक्ने रङहरुले टाल्दैछु म,

त्यसैले,
मन भित्र मरिसकेका सपनाहरु
आज फेरी खोलेर हेरे
अस्ताइसकेकी घाम उनी फेरी उदाउछिनकी भनी
आज फेरी बोलेर हेरे।।

Sometimes

Sometimes all you can give is love 
Sometimes all you have is not enough 

Sometimes life is like a dream 
Sometimes dreams aren’t what they seem 

Sometimes laughter can heal your heart 
Sometimes it’s laughter that breaks it apart 

Sometimes the world goes faster than you can go 
Sometimes even fast is still too slow 

Sometimes going home is the only thing on your mind 
Sometimes home is the only place you can’t find 

Sometimes you are too tired to sleep 
Sometimes you are too sad to weep 

Sometimes freedom holds you back 
Sometimes a wedding dress is black 

Sometimes loneliness is what you need 
Sometimes there’s a harvest without a seed 

Sometimes darkness can be too bright 
Sometimes rain gives you delight 

Sometimes you think you understand 
Sometimes you know you really can’t 

Sometimes what sets you free are restrictions 
Sometimes what makes most sense are contradictions.

त्यो  बेला थियो, जब म नेपाली थिएँ !
छर-छिमेकमा सबै नेपाली थियौं,
नेपाली हुनु हाम्रो गर्व थियो
रातो र चन्द्र सुर्य हाम्रो पहिचान
चार जात अनि छत्तीस वर्ण
पुर्व मेची देखि पश्चिम महाकाली
हिमाल पहाड तराई, हामी सबै नेपाली
कोहि छैन पराइ !
अनि आए नेता रुपी ब्वाँसाहरु !
कोहि संसद, कोहि सडक अनि कोहि जंगलबाट
मुलुकको मुहार फेर्ने झुटो नाटक मन्चन गर्दै
१५००० बढी निर्दोष नेपालीलाइ  बलिको  बोको  बनाइ
ससक्त  युवा शक्तिलाइ विदेशिने बाटो देखाएर
मुलुक आज साम्प्रदायिक खाडलमा खसाल्दै छन्
राष्ट्रीयताको ढोंग रचेर
अराजकताको नाङ्गो नाच नाचिरहेछन यहाँ
नत यिनलाई लाज छ नत कुनै सरम
राष्ट्रीयता आज विस्तारबाद सामु झुकी सक्यो
खै तिमीहरुले बुझेको मर्म !!


परजीवी जस्तै मुलुकलाई डसेर तिमीले चार बर्ष
स्वार्थ पुरा गर्यौ आफ्नो
तर अहिले गल्ति सबै अरुको, अनि
तिमीहरु पनि माथि को ओभानो
दाजु-भाईलाई जात-जातमा फुटाई
हिन्दु, बौद्ध अनि मुसलमानको आत्मियतालाई टुटाई
जुन जातियताको राजनीति गर्यौ तिमीले
अक्षम्य  अपराध हो यो, लाग्ने छ आँसु आमाको


खै के भनू म अरु यँहा, निशब्द छु अहिले
तर एक दिन आउने छ,
जो इतिहाँस मा लेखिने छ
तिमिले गरेका सबै पाप र दुस्कर्म को हिसाब हुने छ
गरेका गल्ति लाई आत्म ग्लानी गरि अघि बढ कपुत हरु हो समय हुँदै
नत्र ! त्यो दिन अब टाढा छैन
जब हाम्रो शोक अनि सक्ति....आक्रोश मा बदलिने छ
तब तिमि हरु ले एक मुट्ठी सास अनि एक घुट्को पानी भन्न पाउने छैनौ !!

We may have had  plenty of Revolutions in the History of our Nation. But what we really need at this moment is an Intellectual Revolution. Changing the name of a System doesn't make the big deal when the Rulers are the same with the same old mentality. May God bless us all Nepalese to overcome smoothly form this kinds of Political Crisis and many critical conditions in our society.  

Actually I have written this ...long long ago. If I am not wrong, I wrote this most probably in 2006 during my High-schooling. And I think it worth to be shared here in this Blog. So here it goes....

"If I had a flower for every time I thought of you... I could walk through my garden forever."

 Laying under the stars, Angels crying ....Blood coming from my broken heart,....tears in my eyes,...memories in my mind...it was to hard to say good bye.....so young me and already tired of life.. Destruction are not always noisy as bombs exploding...sometime the ultimate catastrophes are as quiet as feather falling on the ground......no one else can really hear your heart breaking except you...it is the sound of you curled upon a tiny ball and crying softly in the night, the sound of regret pounding inside your brain with every heartbeat, it is the soundtrack of memories torturing you,..it is the sound of a telephone that doesn´t ring,...the sound of first unwanted teardrop touching your skin,...it is the suffling of feet walking away from you,...the sound of your soul shattering into a million pieces at recognizing the word "GOODBYE". It is the unrelenting plaintive baby meows of an abandoned kitten outside an ignoring door. It is not easy getting up on our feet after crippling fall but there is no other way but to stand up and move on. Life is a chain, that all of us go through, falling in love, getting hurt and vowing not to love again...promising not to love again and becoming miserable all our lives. They say only time can heal the wounds of broken heart. That time makes it easier to accept the loss of the people we love, when we close our eyes and listen to the echoes of our heart.....we all fall in love and there are times that we love so much, ...that we lose ourselves in our own emotions....we may have lost it but the again..!§% we have to say goodbye to the feelings we wanted to stay with us for ever,....let us not wave our hands with a heavy heart for love..will have to set its wings free and should find a place where it belongs to.We should not hold it in our hands for we may never find the strength to let it go when it decides to leave. But if it doesn't, then we should never let our lives taken by it for life should not end where heartaches begin. love will always be as it always has been silent, mysterious and deeply profound. But love is only a gift given to us. We should only embrace its warmth and glow while it lasts and then freely open our hearts when it is the time to say goodbye. We by mistake have looked at love as need to be fulfilled....its our fault that we fall in love.